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Why Everyone Should Learn How to Argue Healthily





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Cindy Yoseffa
Cindy Yoseffa
Hi Pals!
This week should be that one fine week at the end of summer vacation because I went for a day trip to Venice, Italy. I was so excited, until I got bad news from home. This causes me so much stress and I can’t really enjoy the trip. And it tends to leak to my other relationships and I argue a lot with others, whom I met.

In my therapy, I’ve learned to understand, how bad my arguing skills were. I used to be in a debate club in high school. Unfortunately, this tends to bring my debate strategies to my private arguments, and it can be pretty unhealthy.
Private argument requires emotion regulation and you shall aim to be wise, rather than to win the argument or to be right.
My therapist and family told me that I’m becoming better at this, even though there are still so many works to do. In my relationship, I now learned some signs, where I need to stop arguing and take time to calm myself; like yelling, cursing and hyperventilating.
Conflict avoided is conflict multiplied.
- Jordan Peterson
One thing that I also learned is: You can’t fully avoid conflict. You should be brave enough to tell your reality and accept other’s reality, even if it’s so absurd for you. This is easier to write than practice. Even those, who practice for long time, will have problems with this sometimes. A conflict can mean many things: Misunderstanding, Unhealthy Mindset, and much more. Being able to communicate properly in healthy manners and differentiate judgements and facts can help a lot in difficult situations.
😐 What is your pattern on arguing: avoid conflict or face conflict? How do you deal with your pattern?
💌 Let me know via Twitter or E-Mail.
I wish you a great week!
❤️‍🔥 Cindy
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This week I enjoy
  1. Movie - Far From the Madding Crowd on Netflix. This movie really shows the hard reality most women in their 20s-30s have. At the end of the day, women need to know that we also need men. Both see the world in different perspectives, and we should work together, rather than despite each other. Being too independent could be a sign, that someone is lacking relationship skills.
  2. Song - charms by ibrahim on SoundCloud. This song really hit that 3 a.m. feeling at 4 a.m. Like you’re chilling in an industrial city or maybe just driving around at night and feel the dark morning. Perfect to enjoy your morning and may be headed to relax your morning brain.
Tweet of The Week
Cindy Yoseffa
Relationship is much more important than money or wealth in the world. With too little healthy relationships, people will be mentally and physically sick, then die faster. Take good care of your relationship with people you hold dearly. #redpill
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